Some individuals are so enmeshed in their partner’s life, that the thought of their partner leaving them for another is truly intolerable. Oftentimes, they want to surround their partner with their “protection” and keep their partner all to themselves. The emotion of jealousy is so powerful that it can affect the health of the jealous person, both physically and mentally.
Some individuals believe they know all about love, but in truth they don’t really understand the dynamics of love in a healthy relationship. When a partner is filled with insecurity and rage about a partner, there is no real love in that relationship that is healthy and sound. Love is not about dominating or possessing a partner so that they feel stalked and smothered in the relationship.
The origin of jealousy is a very deep rooted one that is difficult to overcome. The fear of losing love is a feeling that is hard to control, so many people cannot handle dealing with this except in being jealous and making accusations. No one likes losing love and with some people the possibility of this experience is overwhelming.
Jealousy can end relationships when a partner acts jealous mixed in unstable with false accusations and self-esteem issues. As a result, some partners will want to reassure the loved one, but if that doesn’t work the situation ends up being very distressing and emotional for both parties. Existing in a problematic relationship with an insecure person is very nerve wracking, as it is not an expression of true love.
Keep in mind if your insecure partner has seen you flirt or talk with another attractive person, they will have good reason to feel upset with you. Are you looking for someone new and want to end it with your partner? If so, be up front and tell them you need to break up for awhile, but do tell them in a place where there are other people around if you fear for yourself.
Keep in mind if you must end the relationship, do it if you must—but be sure your partner knows that you mean it this time. If you intend to make it final, tell your lover or partner that you cannot promise to be friends. Some people will grasp at the faintest hope to salvage the relationship, so don’t give any false hope.
If you still love your partner, ask them to speak with a relationship counselor with you. Realize that a healthy relationship is not full of false accusations, control issues and insecurity as it doesn’t have to be that way. Finally, inform your partner that you want a loving and healthy relationship with them and no one else, and that you believe that the love is worth healing and saving.
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