You've taken the plunge and signed up for an internet dating site. You've spent considerable time creating an amusing profile complete with photos. You've done your best to showcase yourself in a positive light.
Now the fun begins; it's time to start searching for the man or woman of your dreams. Using the site's built in search, you select your dream date's criteria, hit the search button and wait for the results. Seconds later, your matches are displayed.
As you read through the profiles looking for clues of his or her personality, there are a few things you need to keep an eye out for. These are character traits that are not particularly flattering. More importantly, they could be relationship deal breakers.
Badmouthing. Sarcasm is amusing, for a while and even more so when it's disguised as humor in the form of a joke about the waitress or a friend. But if all your date's comments about people are sarcastic and unflattering, it says more about your date than the people he or she is commenting on. Think this through. If your date has nothing positive to say about others what makes you think he or she will talk any differently about you?
Previous relationships. Almost all of us have relationships in our past. And we likely keep some of them to ourselves because they weren't a highlight in our lives. Someone who has a half dozen or more creepy relationship tales to tell may be someone who hasn't learned anything from their past mistakes. They may enjoy playing the victim, but will you enjoy being portrayed as the "bad guy"?
A BIG Chip On Their Shoulder. People who are angry all the time are likely people who haven't learned anything from their past experiences. Even more important, they blame everyone but themselves for their lack of success in all aspects of their life. You can bet that if you become involved with someone like this you'll get your share of the blame sooner or later.
Polar Opposites. It's true that opposites attract, but some differences are just too great to ignore. Big issues about which you are on opposite sides of the fence like religion, whether or not to have children, and drinking and drugs, are relationship killers. You may have fun in the short term, but long term? Not so much.
Dating and internet dating should be about getting to know someone better. If the person you're dating exhibits any of the above characteristics, take care. Give some thought as to whether these traits could present big problems down the road, and make your decision accordingly.
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