As much as I love first dates, I'm so over them. All that build up, all that pressure, the uncomfortable footwear; it's all a big fuss over what is really just one night of your life. There are literally billions of articles written about first dates, and yet I don't think it is the most important date.
It's definitely special; this is where first impressions are made and hopefully the first sparks fly. And the legendary third date is where, according to tradition, you let your new sweetie see your sexy under things. Of course, nowadays it's altogether possible that that magic moment happened at any time, from pre-first date until your wedding night. But still, I think we all continue to get the third date rush.
The outing in between those two events, the sweet second date, gets the shaft most of the time. No one pays attention to this night but really, I think this is where the gold is at, Think about it: you're slightly more at ease and less nerve-ridden than you were on the first date but the overwhelming thoughts of sex are (maybe) waiting until the next time you go out (for the record, I'm not a huge rules girl, I'm just using the whole third-date-sex thing as an example), but it's still so early in the relationship that you're completely excited and everything is still brand new.
The second date hits the sweet spot. To make sure that you are making the most of this special and underrated event, here's a handy checklist:
Put your listening ears on
It's time to put your listening ears on. Since you're out with this person a second time, you obviously made a good impression on the first date. You can let go of the nervousness and put your brain back into gear. Start by focusing more on being genuinely interested in your new sweetie and less on making yourself look amazing. This is your opportunity to learn more about your date and watch him or her become a more complete person.
Flirt it up
This is the time to flirt it up, just don't get too serious about it. Why do you need to flirt it up on the second date? Because too often people allow themselves to slip into "friend" mode. So you'd better be creating some sexual undertones otherwise your date will get the wrong impression.
If you want your date to believe that all you want is friendship, good enough. But I'm guessing you don't; so flirt it up and make your intentions clear.
Never mind the boxes
By boxes, I am referring to preset parameters around all kinds of things: yourself, this brand new relationship with another person, the other personany of it. You've been out one time. Don't assume that you know exactly who the other person is. Don't pretend to know exactly who they see you as. Definitely don't think you have your relationship put in a neatly labeled box either. At this point, anything could still happen.
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